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— Hubby is Reluctant to Accept
Promotion Because He Flakes
from Theresa L.
Hi Clara: I feel
a little embarrassed even bringing this up while so many
thousands of people are losing their jobs in the U.S.
My husband, has
had psoriasis for most of his life and is considered
"severe" by his dermatologist. At work he's just been
offered a BIG promotion that he wants to turn down. Let
me back up.
He has worked
for his company for over 15 years and has had several
different jobs but they did not involve direct daily
contact with the public. He worked in an office or a
warehouse or a lab with the same people, day in day out,
and his obvious psoriasis was soon accepted and ignored
by his co-workers. Last week he was offered a position
in a different department and the salary would be a 20%
increase for him. HOWEVER, he would have to travel
around the state and meet clients face-to-face. The
thought scares him to death.
reluctance stunned me. He is such a personable person.
Everybody he knows likes him. I can understand easily
why his bosses have decided he is the right man for this
job. How can I convince him he is?
Thank you for visiting. Congratulations to your husband
for the great offer he's been handed. First, you cannot
convince your husband to take this promotion; he must
decide if he wants to stand still or move on. Have you
noticed how, over the past five years or so, public
awareness of psoriasis has increased? I suppose we can
thank the various pharmaceutical companies that
advertise and celebrities like CariDee English and LeAnn
Rimes who talk publically about their own cases, and the
media that pays attention to them. What it all adds up
to is psoriasis is out of the closet. Most
everybody thinks of it as an unfortunate way of
life. Your husband won't scare people anymore. He needs
to realize he is being offered this promotion because he
is deserving, and because of his loyalty to his
company. They regard him as an asset and they believe
his representation of their company to their clients
will be successful and profitable.
Ask your husband
if he doesn't think his bosses have earned the
opportunity to test their instincts about him.
And point your husband to this video (it shouldn't be
LeAnn Rimes on Psoriasis
And use some of that promotion money to take a 2nd
honeymoon! -Clara Dewke
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