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The Pity Pot (a.k.a. Chriss Venting)
from Chriss

Bless you, bless you, bless you.

Between the Flakers Jargon and the Don’t Say This, I was laughing and crying and laughing again. It is past my bedtime, and instead of trying to sleep past this incredible itching flare-up, I turned to the Internet to try to find some kind of solace. I have recently decided to take a hiatus from dating and was looking up dealing with psoriasis and dating and somehow landed on your site. God was definitely helping to lighten my mood.

Living positively with psoriasis is my mandate, but as you know, when a flare-up hits, and you are itching and burning and being driven nuts, and feeling SO INCREDIBLY UNATTRACTIVE, positive takes a break and the pity-pot becomes your newest residence. I won't be here long — never am — but man, I hate this disease!  I always think: after 34 years, haven't I done my time?

Still, that other voice inside my head says I am darn lucky.  So many have it worse (I am 80% covered at the moment, but it is not a multi-layered skin variety, it’s a thin-patches-everywhere variety). So many do have things worse, though, and I have to kick myself in the butt and remember that when I’m sitting on this pity pot.

Your site, and the ones it links to really helped. Not many people can really understand, though they try. When I need to vent (like now) it is not always a whine-fest, but a necessary release of pent up frustration. The laughing and crying that your site gave me was a gift. I usually hold the tears in, lol.

As for a singles like me, I have actually half seriously thought of talking to my dermatologist (one of the good ones who does not force drugs, and does not say “Well, you won't have much of a social life”) if he knows any single men my age who have ANY skin problems. I would deal [with their skin problems], lol. Seriously, he could ask them if they were interested? Right? OMG ... do I sound desperate? Geesh.

I keep telling myself that the psoriasis is a screening process.  God is making sure I stay away from superficial people.  But is that really true?  Even people who are not superficial may be uncomfortable.  I know I am when I look in the mirror.

Okay.  Enough venting, lol. Life is good (itchy, but good) and I just needed to unload. Thanks again for the site and the opportunity to vent.

-Chriss (Alberta, Canada)


Ed’s response:  Your “lol’s” make it all worthwhile, Chriss.

I mean, the web site.

Not the P.  Not the flaking.  — Well, maybe a little.  We’d probably have never heard from you were it not for this disease we share.  Unless, of course, you’ve made some music videos.

Or something like that.

Anyway, thanks for the kind words.  Welcome aboard.  Feel free to vent whenever and however you want to.  Lol.  ;)  -Ed

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