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Helps Her Deal with Her Lover’s P
Hi Ed, Just a
quick note to say thanks for a great site.
I stumbled across it while searching for more information regarding
P. I’ve fallen in love with
someone with Psoriasis and it came as a shock when he told me about it.
I didn’t understand it at all.
Thanks to your site and others I feel a whole lot better now and
willing (more than) to face the future. -Claudia
Response: You’ve made me
feel good, Claudia. Not
everyone who has P is lucky enough to find a significant
other with the interest and devotion to pursue understanding.
And it makes a lot of difference.
The way we feel about ourselves is a complex jumble of thoughts and
emotions, many of which we borrow from what we believe we see reflected in
others’ eyes. No, these
reflections aren’t rational; sometimes they may be completely wrong.
But how often do we feel comfortable asking (with pouty lips) Would
you love me more if my skin was clear?
We are embarrassed, so we do not ask.
Instead we take that second glance at the flaming lesion to heart:
Why did you look there,
again, instead of longingly into my eyes?
It’s because you cannot love me enough while my skin is like
Because we are
people we can be so simple. So
And the act of
someone else wanting to understand is a tremendous kindness.
Like pure oxygen to a gasping person.
Joy. And, yes, Love.