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Compare Me With Other Women
I enjoy this
site a lot. Everything I read
makes sense to me. Friends and
family say they understand how you feel but they don’t have a clue.
I feel sorry
for my boyfriend because I know he would like to go somewhere hot on
holiday, but that means stripping and when you have psoriasis all over,
and there’s women everywhere with soft, unblemished skin, it would be
embarrassing. Not only would I
be worrying what other people are thinking, but I know he would be
comparing me with the others. It’s
only natural. After all, most
men like looking at other women normally.
sound like a wimp. I'm not normally, but this is a big hang-up of mine.
Just can’t help it.
But I do have
to say this web site has made me laugh.
So thanks for
that. -Jasmine (England)
Response: Well, Jasmine.
We’re entitled to our hang-ups, too.
The last time I went on one of those holidays like your boyfriend
wants was the mid-eighties, a few years before I started flaking, and I
took my wife-at-the-time to Bermuda. I
remember all the scantly clad people on the beaches and strolling the
streets of Hamilton. I
wouldn’t initiate another such vacation today.
But, if I found myself in Bermuda for any other reason, I’d be
the older gentleman wearing khakis and a broad-brimmed hat.
Depending on how my P arthritis might be faring at the time, I
might also be sporting a cane.
I hope that
when you say “no” definitively to the hot weather vacation idea you
explain to your boyfriend how you feel.
You may be surprised. Perhaps
he’s thought of some work-around and has been waiting for you to say
something to launch the conversation.
I hope so.
If not ...
well, hot weather is a great time to explore the Scottish Highlands, I’m
told. It doesn’t take much
imagination to find romance in that, too.
Good luck! -Ed