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How about ‘Swimming Teacher’
My name is Teresa and I am from Los Angeles. I am 23 and I have
the most recent (last month) transcript of NPF
chats I started thinking. I guess I am pretty darn lucky. I convinced
myself when I started clearing to the point where just my elbows and knees
(and scalp, I guess) were heavily effected, to wear short sleeves and
eventually got myself into shorts and skirts. I guess I have to say that I
have not been without odd and inappropriate comments but I can say that I
am lucky to feel confident enough to wear these.
You want to
hear about confidence? Two years ago I interviewed to be a swimming
teacher. The boss didn't bother to notice anything about me (although I
was wearing short sleeves during the interview) until I was about to take
my first lesson. He stopped, startled and said, "Uh, what is on your
elbow?" I said, "Just extra skin, it is psoriasis, not a big
deal. Why?" He asked me to cover it up and I flat out said no. Guess
who was the most popular swimming coach? Guess who was voted best swimming
teacher two years in a row? Me! I could not have done that in a big wet shirt,
and it would not have covered much anyway. (By the way the bromine in the
water "burned" all my extra skin off- much like it destroyed the
elastic in my bathing suit- and cleared my skin but would only last for a
week. I don't know if there is any research about this chemical but it is
worth a look).
I work with at
an elementary school as a Teacher's Assistant and a yard duty supervisor.
Everyday a kid asks me , "What's wrong with your elbow?" or
"Ewww, what is THAT???" or
some other annoying question. It is a chink in the armor but I guess it is
good for me.
My point is to
inspire your readers. Get out in the sun, slather on some Vitamin E and
don't force yourself into sweaters in July. Get a date. Go swimming. You
can do it. I was a flaker from head to toe. It all went into remission
after I got very, very ill and I was not willing to alter my lifestyle
again. Good thing because it has never gone away completely. I am so lucky
to have a family that attempts to make me feel
Would you like
my list of ridiculous things people have said to me?
I only have my
flakiness on my scalp, elbows, and knees. Some ADULT said: “Oh my GOD!
What is wrong with your HAND? " I smiled and said, "Nothing.”
What an idiot. Why do people feel the need to do that?
My boss after
two years: "Whoa, what happened, are you okay? What is that? Did you
Best thing ever
said: A 2nd grader would follow me around and explain my skin every five
seconds to all the kids who would ask. She would stroke my elbow and say,
"See, it's just skin. No big deal. I'm not getting it. So, drop it
already." That kid ROCKS!!
Best of luck
and keep up the great work. Thanks,
Response: Thanks for the story
and the anecdotes, Teresa. I
concur completely, your 2nd grade shadow defender does, indeed, ROCK!!!
The rest of your eloquent email needs no embellishment from me.
You showed a rare courage becoming a swimming teacher.
And look how you succeeded! There’s
a success story I’ll be pointing to for a long time to come.
Keep the Pace,